Where Do we Go From Here?

I have been talking to him for a  few months I felt that we had chemistry from the time first time we met.  he's Intelligent, humorous,harworking, spiritual .... Visually lawd... exactly what I like. My dilemma??? BMD...yes, the dreaded Baby Mama Drama.

I know...and normally by now I would have bailed but, I like him. It seems that BM is the stalking type and unfortunately the type to use a child to get what she wants. I have stopped counting the times he has had to alter his plans because BM has not picked the child up from daycare or  just dropped him off at his house without calling  because SHE had something to do. I have not seen any sense of anger about this and although I know he loves his son ( AS HE SHOULD), what about your life? I don't want him to leave the child at daycare or anything like that but damn she has no consideration for his time.

Tonight she came by again  without calling because she needed something else that just couldn't wait. I couldn't make out exactly what but I know he went for his checkbook. When he introduced me sis barely spoke. Then grabbed little dude  like I was about to eat him.  They haven't been together for two years ( now that I think back he told me he hadn't been seriously involved with anyone for two years) Now  I know why..who would continue to put up with this?

If it is something really serious yes, by all means, you handle that. But I'm sure that sis knows popping up whenever she feels like it is out of control. I asked him this evening did he think that she wanted to get back together. He said that she has told him she does but it's not going to happen. At this rate...I think it may.

I don't feel I'm being petty on this one. I understand that if I date anyone who has children they have other priorities.   I'm weighing the pros and at this moment the cons are winning.

Comments

[Wendy]

I'm done...Next!!!

[youtoldharpotabeatme]

I'll bet sista gurl was cool, for as long as he was single. I haven't gone thru that personally, but I have plenty of girlfriends who have.... the majority of them say it's not worth it.

For years, one of my girls went to hell and back with him AND his "ex".... only to have him break it off with her and finally marry his daughter's mother, weeks later.

[Michele]

This is a tough one. I guess where you guys go from here really depends on where you want it to go. Sometimes the pressure of the past relationship is just too much to deal with. Especially since she has expressed an interest in getting back together. She always has his ear and feels quite comfortable popping up whenever she feels the need. Is he worth the trouble?